Does a child need two parents to bring it up and be happy?
Is a two parent family preferable to a one parent family?
Should you stay together for the sake of the kids?
In summary; no, no, no.
My child is happy, the fact she lives separately from her father makes her sad. The child of a one parent family has sadness in her life, show me the child of any family that doesn’t have sadness in its life.
Would it be preferable for my child to live in a household where her parents were arguing and had fallen out of love and respect for her? To live with sadness and upset every day? No, my child is better with two parents that love her and live separately.
I honestly believe you should never stay together for the sake of the children. It will be at the cost of everyone’s self esteem and sanity. A child will look to place blame for the unhappiness in their household, they might blame themselves or one or other parent, it won’t be until they are older and in their own relationships that they will have the experience and empathy to understand the why’s and wherefores of their parents relationships. Between now and then is a long time, do you want to do lasting damage to those relationships? Do you want to be the bad example of how adults relate to each other - without love or respect? Your children learn from you – show them the example of parents that can be happy apart and treat each other with respect rather than parents that fight and argue their way through life.
There are lots of assumptions about the right way for a family to be and for me to say that I think a family is better when it is two parents than when it is one undermines all the work that I have done in the last few years to give my child happiness and security.
Why should I think that another family is better than mine simply because of the logistics. There is no doubt that a family full of love is a great family no matter how many people are in it. So for the record, yes, I do think lone parent families are just as good as two parent families. Love isn’t measured in the number of people in a family but by how full and happy the heart is.