One of the phrases that I’ve come to love when a new benefit or tax credit assessment falls through the door is; How much the law says you need to live on… The answer, for a single adult is £71.00 The Prime Minister gets paid £145,000 a year. Let me do the maths for you. [...]
A thrifty blogger challenge for Mr. Cameron
by Ruth on May 16, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent
How do we measure success?
by Ruth on May 8, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, loneliness
Am I success? I don’t know. I can tell you lots of different things that I’ve done that have influenced other people’s lives for the better, but sadly the way that success seems to be measured is in the large achievements, the visible representations of ourselves. In job titles and financial worth. Things that don’t [...]
The Welly Boot of Doom
by Ruth on May 2, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Devon life
A few weeks ago my daughter and I, along with some friends, collected tadpoles from the local pond. I’ll pretend there was some lofty educational aspiration behind this act if you’ll pretend to believe me, but in truth it was a bit of fun. We took three each, a handful of weed and plopped the [...]
How to claim a blog in Technorati
by Ruth on April 27, 2012 in Blogging, Tutorials
D48TT5VH3SUP Technorati is one of the oldest blog directotires around, making it one of the biggest. It has a huge reach and readership and adding your blog to it’s listing can get you new blog readers from all over the world. Technorati also measures your blogs “authority” which is an interpretation of your blogs reach [...]
Four Candles
by Ruth on April 26, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Little Miss, lone parenting, Parenting
Conversations with children can be confusing. At the moment I’m going through a rather torturous phase in which I ask my daughter to do something, she either ignores me to carry on what she is doing, or carries on what she is doing while informing me that she’s “just” doing such and such first, or [...]
Housing benefit claimants versus hard-working families, what does Grant Shapps want us to think?
by Ruth on April 24, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Politics
Today the news is carrying a story about Newham Council who, for various reasons, are unable to provide housing for the tennants in their borough. For anyone that doesn’t know, possibly the journalists reporting on it and their commissioning editors, this is how Housing Benefit works: Claimants can claim up to the maximum housing benefit [...]
Social media, a place for sad lonely people
by Ruth on April 7, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Blogging
Yes, yes it is. This afternoon I was feeling very low. I was sad and a part of that sadness was to do with being lonely. I logged into Twitter and Facebook and felt even more lonely and consequently even more sad. I felt left out. Of course I was, I wasn’t saying anything. Then [...]
Conversational intercourse or pregnant pause; why are folk so interested in our family planning?
by Ruth on April 2, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent
I don’t know how many other parents experience this phenomenon, or if it is peculiar to lone parents or parents of lone children, I’m talking of course about the question that even the slimmest of acquaintences feel compelled to ask me; “Do you think you’ll have any more children?” Or any of the variations on [...]
Children, cyber-bulling and blogging
by Ruth on March 26, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Blogging, Parenting
Last week I watched the thought provoking “The Anti-Social Network“ with Richard Bacon. The programme sought to uncover, explain and, to some extent, understand people who deliberately bully (troll) others via social media networks. Anyone that has been on forums or participated in blog discussions before the advent of social media platforms such as Facebook [...]
The secret life of handbags
by Ruth on March 22, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Sponsored post
I’ve been doing a wardrobe inventory. No I don’t have so many wardrobes I need to count them all, I actually have so much “stuff” I need to organise it all and yes, I am one of those women that puts her winter clothes away and brings out her summer ones. The wardrobe inventory is a [...]
Being Mrs. Cameron
by Ruth on March 20, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Feminism, lone parenting
I woke up the other day and realised that I was in-fact married to David Cameron and, I can tell you, he’s terrible at remembering my birthday. That annual oversight aside what I’m getting at is the fact that as a lone parent I’m effectively married to the state, so really it was a toss [...]
Identity, sex and Cybher
by Ruth on March 14, 2012 in Blogging, Sex
On Saturday 3rd of March ten months of preparation came to fruition in the form of Eroticon 2012, the UK’s first conference for sex bloggers and erotica writers. I’ve been writing erotica for two years and last May was inspired by the work of Sian To and the Cybermummy conference to create a similar talking [...]
Product review ~ HP Envy the fancy pants edition
by Ruth on March 7, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Blogging, Product review, Work life
Sorry, I know that isn’t the real name of the laptop but the spec sheet is downloaded on the old computer and that’s having an afternoon nap at the moment. I’ve been fostering an HP Envy laptop for just over a week now and I’ve used it for a little bit of everything that I would [...]
Life didn’t give me lemons, it gave me a laptop!
by Ruth on February 27, 2012 in After - my life in the UK as a single parent, Blogging, Product review, Work life
Well it lent me a laptop, which isn’t exactly the same thing but it is still pretty spiffy. For some time, a long time, seems like forever, my laptop has been past its best. I bought it four years ago, a reconditioned returned Packard Bell Easy Note from one of the big highstreet electrical brands. [...]












